Ben Affleck admits that divorcing Jennifer Garner was the biggest mistake of his life
In 2018, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner split after 14 years of marriage - and he still calls it his greatest regret.
Luis Gaskell

In 2018, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner split after 14 years of marriage. Sometimes, things just don’t go the way you expect – and it can really hurt.

A Hollywood divorce always gets the town talking, and Affleck’s divorce from Jennifer Garner is no different.

But as much as we like to gossip and look into the lives of celebrities, they are still people at the end of the day.

Having money and status might spare you from a lot of problems most people face, but some battles can’t be fought with money or fame.

One of those battles is the one we all fight with ourselves. It could be depression, anxiety, addiction, or all of the above. It’s never an easy battle.

Ben Affleck says that his divorce from Jennifer Garner was the “biggest regret of his life”, and the toll it took on his mental health is no joke.

As I mentioned before, some battles can’t be overcome with money and fame. Sometimes, money and fame can even make them worse. Having all eyes on you with no privacy is part of what destroyed Princess Diana’s life, for instance.

And a lot of wealth means a lot to spend on addictive and unhealthy things – as many famous people have done.

Affleck himself has a drinking problem, which played a big role in driving the wedge between him and Garner.

Staying sober is a long and enduring task, and relapsing is all too easy to do. Affleck eventually relapsed and turned to alcohol when things were crumbling around him.

A failing marriage would overwhelm just about anyone, and Affleck was pushed to the brink. He turned to drinking once more to cope with it – the very same thing that was causing some of his problems to begin with.

He felt deep regret and shame, though he also says it was best for him to avoid that shame.

“Shame is really toxic. There is no positive byproduct of shame. It’s just stewing in a toxic, hideous feeling of low self-worth and self-loathing.” – said Affleck

The actor spoke further about the ensuing toll it took on his mental health. He went on to state that he was nonetheless determined to get back on his feet, however long that might take.

And he has a point. We all get knocked down at some point, and the only way to deal with it is to get back up. This was even the subject of a memorable scene from Batman Begins, which was coincidentally the same character he would go on to play in 2016.

Affleck described himself as someone who struggled with compulsive behavior, something most of us can relate to.

This all taught him a really important lesson – that the compulsions you seek out to deal with your problems can really just make them worse.

And once you give in to them, it starts a cycle that becomes really hard to break.

“Then you do more of it to make that discomfort go away. Then the real pain starts. It becomes a vicious cycle you can’t break. That’s at least what happened to me.” – he said

Affleck seems to be making progress. He’s now married again – this time to Jennifer Lopez.

Mistakes are how we learn, and Affleck is ready to move on and learn from all the ones he made. The lesson in there is for all of us to take note of, too.

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By Luis Gaskell
Luis Gaskell is a contributor at SBLY Media.